When Virginia Woolf finally confessed her lesbian affair with Vita Sackville-West to her sister, Vanessa Bell, in April of 1929, Vanessa’s response was more curious than surprised.
Virginia described the amusing moment in a letter to Vita a few days later:
“I told Nessa the story of our passion in a chemists shop the other day. ‘But do you really like going to bed with women’ she said – taking her change. ‘And how’d you do it?’ and so she bought her pills to take abroad, talking as loud as a parrot.”
What’s striking about the question is that since the Bloomsbury members were supporters of gay rights and many of them were openly gay, the idea of her sister engaging in a lesbian affair was no big shock to Vanessa.
She also did not appear to have any reservations about sharing this information with anyone within earshot in the store.
Yet, despite the Bloomsbury group’s open and progressive attitudes towards sex, either heterosexual or homosexual, Vanessa was still unaware of how lesbians engaged in a sexual relationship.
According to the book Desiring Women: The Partnership between Virginia Woolf and Vita Sackville-West, part of the reason could be that although the Bloomsbury group were supporters of homosexuality “unlike ‘buggery’ erotic practice between women was not celebrated in Bloomsbury.”
In her diary on August 31 of 1928, Virginia Woolf described a conversation she had with fellow Bloomsbury member E.M. Forster about his attitude towards lesbianism:
“He said he thought Sapphism disgusting; partly from the convention, partly because he disliked that women should be independent of men.”
This could account for Vanessa and the group’s lack of information on the subject. They were well aware that lesbians existed, even among them, they just didn’t discuss or encourage them.
Virginia never gave any indication to what her response was to either Vanessa or E.M. Forster so it’s hard to tell where she stood on the subject. Since Virginia never had any other lesbian lovers after Vita, perhaps their negative attitudes had an effect on her.
It is not clear if the other Bloomsbury Group members ever knew about Virginia and Vita’s affair or what their reactions were but it seems that since they never took a liking to Vita or invited her into their group, it is unlikely they would have approved of it.
“Desiring Women: The Partnership Between Virginia Woolf and Vita Sackville-West”; Karyn Z. Sproles; 2006